Now that you have your guest list, it's time to decide on your maid of honor. If you have more than one person in mind, you may find yourself wondering if it's okay to double up. Absolutely! In fact, one common solution is to choose both a maid of honor and a matron of honor to stand by your side on the big day.
M A I D O F H O N O R V S. M A T R O N O F H O N O R
First thing's first, what's the difference? Simply put, a maid/matron of honor is based on their relationship status. A maid of honor is unmarried, while a matron of honor is someone who is married. Their roles are the same, the difference is purely in the name. Not to mention, both 'titles' hold the same rank as maid of honor in the wedding party.
C A N Y O U H A V E B O T H ?
Of course! At the end of the day, it's your wedding, and you make the rules... if it makes sense, go for it. If you're planning to have a large bridal party, having two MOHs, married or not, can be very helpful when it comes to keeping the rest of your bridesmaids in line. Also, think of your 18 year-old sister, she would be a great maid of honor (no one is more honest than a sibling), BUT when it comes to planning your bachelorette party, and planning advice it's great to have someone with experience to lean on. Your MOHs can either work together, or you can delegate tasks - for example, if one is under 21, they might be better suited to planning your wedding shower, and the other planning your bachelorette. No matter what, rely on them to delegate tasks to your wedding party, they want to help!
H O W D O Y O U C H O O S E A M A I D / M A T R O N O F H O N O R ?
Traditionally, the role is held by whoever is closest to the bride, like a best friend or sister. The MOH needs to be dependable enough to complete their duties, and also able to afford the financial requirements that may come along with the role.
D O B O T H G I V E A S P E E C H ?
If both are part of your wedding party, then yes, both should be speaking! They can either give their own speech, or choose to combine their speech for one grand toast (usually works well if they too are close friends).
D O E S T H E M O H H A V E T O B E A W O M A N ?
No! The honor can be any gender, we've seen many a men assume the title.